tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334795071638391711.post4465998010542881351..comments2023-09-17T03:01:05.063-07:00Comments on The Marketing Survivalist: Is It Important to be Liked?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17975146450107615036noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334795071638391711.post-152791245784566692009-05-07T20:22:00.000-07:002009-05-07T20:22:00.000-07:00Tom,
Thanks for the clarification. An intriguing ...Tom,<br /><br />Thanks for the clarification. An intriguing idea, to be sure! <br /><br />MelissaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975146450107615036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334795071638391711.post-20120825167681951182009-05-04T22:49:00.000-07:002009-05-04T22:49:00.000-07:00I agree with a point you made, that people's behav...I agree with a point you made, that people's behavior has become habitual because that behavior has worked in the past. You're right, people CAN change but as that old saying goes, old habits die hard. It's not just online jobs/relations--people should be open to change if they want themselves, their jobs, and their lives to improve.<br /><br />-<A HREF="http://www.insourcedjobs.com/" REL="nofollow">Imee</A>Imee Rockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07997556657001947542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334795071638391711.post-27951803698774765582009-05-02T09:09:00.000-07:002009-05-02T09:09:00.000-07:00Hi Mellisa,
I like your thinking! Your proactive ...Hi Mellisa,<br /><br />I like your thinking! Your proactive approach to solving problems with offensive employees is right on. <br /><br />Never should a leader allow problematic behaviors to continue overtly or fester under the radar. A proactive approach is always the best.<br /><br />I do want to be clear as to what I meant about the dating idea in the article I wrote called "How to Lead Ugly People."<br /><br />My suggestion for the dating idea is simply a way to market yourself to others to make yourself more appealing. This helps others become better listeners. <br /><br />I am not suggesting that the reason to engage in the dating mindset is simply to be liked for the sake of self fulfillment.<br /><br />When it comes to the idea of thinking in terms of “dating” an employee, this is simply the first step in many in properly leading people to be successful on a team. I suggest this as a lens to view others. It is simply a mind frame that will help you be acceptable and welcomed by others. It is actually just a mental tool to help people be less focused on self and more focused on others.<br /><br />When we do this (like in dating), we are putting effort into putting our best foot forward. When correcting behaviors in others, the offender can tend to adopt a defensive position to justify their actions and resist changing. <br /><br />However, if they are approached by someone that was working to be attractive to them, common sense would dictate that they would be more likely to listen and learn.<br /><br />It is simply a subtle way of marketing one’s self toward others to smooth communications and lessen resistance.<br /><br />I hope you can see that my suggestion for dating was not to be liked as the final reason for doing this. It is simply the first of many things needed to be effective in the eyes of the follower.<br /><br />Thanks for engaging!<br /><br />~Tom Schulte<br />Executive Director | Linked 2 Leadership<br />Atlanta, GA USA<br />www.twitter.com/tomschulte<br />www.tinyurl.com/JoinL2LGroupAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com